Saturday, February 12, 2011

FOR GOOD


I've heard it said

That people come into our lives for a reason

Bringing something we must learn

And we are led

To those who help us most to grow

If we let them

And we help them in return

Well, I don't know if I believe that's true

But I know I'm who I am today
Because I knew you...



Like a comet pulled from orbit

As it passes a sun

Like a stream that meets a boulder

Halfway through the wood

Who can say if I've been changed for the better?

But because I knew you
I have been changed for good





It well may be

That we will never meet again

In this lifetime

So let me say before we part

So much of me

Is made of what I learned from you

You'll be with me

Like a handprint on my heart

And now whatever way our stories end

I know you have re-written mine
By being my friend...



Like a ship blown from its mooring

By a wind off the sea

Like a seed dropped by a skybird

In a distant wood

Who can say if I've been changed for the better?
But because I knew you




Because I knew you




I have been changed for good





And just to clear the air

I ask forgiveness
For the things I've done you blame me for



But then, I guess we know
There's blame to share




And none of it seems to matter anymore





Like a comet pulled from orbit

As it passes a sun

Like a stream that meets a boulder
Halfway through the wood



Like a ship blown from its mooring

By a wind off the sea
Like a seed dropped by a bird in the wood



Who can say if I've been

Changed for the better?

I do believe I have been
Changed for the better


And because I knew you...


Because I knew you..

Because I knew you...

I have been changed for good...

Monday, March 22, 2010

Sunday, March 21, 2010

5 Habits of the Happiest Couples


I'm taking a cue from Shine staffer Sarah McColl's post, "Five Habits of Happy People Even the Biggest Grump Can Borrow."

When I looked at her tips and applied them to marriage, they seemed to ring pretty true. I thought I'd share some with you so you'll be inspired also. Or not. I'm sure you'll let me know.

1. Reach out. In the words of an old commercial, "Reach out and touch someone..." But not just anyone. Your spouse! They'll be sure to thank you for it. And while you might not be having sex with the pool man or the cashier in the grocery store (or maybe you are, but that's a different blog post) there's no reason you can't break through that wall we all put up with a friendly, "Thanks. Hey, how is your day going?" If you're like me, you'll find that when you let other people into your world, you don't put so much pressure on your spouse to be Mr. Everything.

2. Be thankful. Yes, it's a bit cliche, but it works. I wrote a poem recently expressing just how thankful I am for the little things Rex does to keep this household running. I have continued my journaling also. When I see on paper just how much Rex brings to the table, I'm far less cranky at the way he clicks his fork against his teeth while eating my pesto salad. Or the way he leaves shoes all over the floor just waiting for me to trip and break my neck. Or how the night time routines often involve me doing everything kid related while he gets caught up on a riveting episode of South Park. Okay, now I'm getting mad. So I'll end it with a "Thank you, Rex, for trusting me to write about us and never once - not once - give me a hard time about talking about you getting hard... all the time. Moving on.

3. Live your passion. This is a biggy for me and perhaps it is for you. In a nut shell, sexual passion is awesome, but after ten years of marriage, it can die down. I have found the more I feed my passion for things non-Rex related, the more I come back to him with a libido more buzzed than my brain after 3 cups of Yuban. Though I need to work on the stinky coffee breath thing. In time... in time.

4. Make do. The idea is to be happy with what you have, not what you don't. I couldn't agree more. For me, this applies to things as well as personality traits. So our kitchen looks like a 1950's showroom on crack. Do we have electricity? Running water? Food in a fridge? Yes yes and yes? Well that just makes me want to say those words in the bedroom. Because I know I have such a wonderful home due to a husband who works his butt off for me. (And yes, I contribue to my home also...) Which leads me to #2 - I'm thankful!

5. Enjoy the simple pleasures. This one is my favorite. For us, it's not about fancy dinners out or new furniture. (Though we do go to dinner about once/month. It's heavenly.) Cooking together in the kitchen and having a picnic lunch with our kids on the lawn with the laundry drying on the line? That's pretty spectacular also. (It's also another way of saying we're cheap, but our anti-Midas tendencies have afforded us a cabin in the woods and some pretty remarkable friends who appreciate our hearts, not our wallets, so I'm not complaining.)

What are your secrets to a happy marriage? And, hard to believe, with me not being a perfect-looking specimen naked, I'm certainly happy that Rex subscribes to these 5 "how to be happy" tips also.

Saturday, March 20, 2010

My Letter to Bank Manager

To : General Manager (HSBC Aminah Takaful)
CC : Bank Negara Malaysia , HSBC Head Quarter
From : Nway Aye Maung (Lifestyle Saver)
Passport Number : 374782
Subject : Upset about sign up with HSBC “Aminah Takaful”

Dear Sir,
I am Nway Aye Maung from Myanmar, working in Malaysia since 2002. I regret to write this letter about HSBC Tanah Rata, Cameron Highlands branch. End of july 2009, I went to HSBC Cameron Highlands Branch to open a new ATM account, and Hoh Chun Yee (Eve) attended to me introducing “Aminah Takaful”. I told her that I am a foreigner and I may cancel this plan within one year. She said it was fine and that I will receive the amount that I have saved and can even earn interest on top of the principal amount. Wow, I'd say that's a good deal and proceeded to sign up for the “Lifestyle Saver” (started by saving RM400 per month). So she made me signed on several documents, of which I could only see the right-bottom corner of the page, as she flipped the corners rapidly after each signature – I was not even permitted some time to browse through the content of the letter!
I also introduced my colleague, Ver, about the plan and he was also interested about the plan and joined in at RM200 per month plan.
After about one month I received the policy certificate which stated that should the information on the policy did not meet my requirement, I can cancel within15 days. And I doubt with what she had explained to me because the information on the certificate stated that in 1st year 35% of contribution (Credit or Debit? Which is unclear), we went to HSBC Cameron Highlands Branch, we proceeded with our cancellation (if there is Debit from what we have paid). And we ask another agent Ms.Pei Nee, I checked with her about what Eve told me and how the certificate state year 35% of contribution was that credit or debit? What ever Eve told me is true and she said, “You better check with her”, pretending she does not know anything about HSBC Aminah.
And then we spoke with Eve later again and she said that I needed not to cancel immediately, because its better to cancel after one year, for I will receive RM 4800 plus RM 2921 as profit, instead of 35% credit for us, which is a good deal. She even drew in the paper (kindly refer to attachment page). And we ask why are we receiving so much of profit? She said that in HSBC Aminah, there is an “Islamic Community Donation”-thing and whoever participated in the plan will “share-share” the profit for certain amount. And we asked her if that is certain. She replied confidently, “I had completed a training and certificate was awarded to me as a requirement to be a certified insurance agent”. We asked her if we can cancel during that time and how much are we receiving? She said I shall receive RM800 plus RM80 profit and Ver will receive RM400 plus RM40. And we mentioned to Eve that we will think about it. And my friend & I decided not to cancel the plan. And also ask her to update my contact detail due change in my h/p number to 0195556978, from my 018 (U Mobile). And she said she will update.
In the third week of November, I went to HSBC Tanah Rata, Cameron Highlands branch due to failure of banking in RM400 in October and I spoke to Ms.Pei Nee. She helped me in calling the Amanah HQ to check. HQ call center told me that I can bank-in in December to qualify for two months, amounting to RM800. And I noticed that Eve is no longer working with HSBC.
Next day (19th Nov) I went to HSBC Tanah Rata Branch and I spoke with agent Mr. Moses. I checked if all the information that Eve told us was true and asked again if we can get the amount which was expalined to us by Eve. Then I showed him the paper that Eve scribbled on for us in one year time when we want to cancel. His answer is YES. I ask again, “Am I receiving RM7,721?” He said YES again. I asked, “Why are we receiving so much profit? He said, “In Malaysia we have “Tax”!!” (??TAX?? What the...??). I am starting to doubt already about this whole thing – I think this is a scam! I asked him again, “So am I receiving RM4800 plus profit of RM2921?” This time he said that I am going to receive RM 2,921 only. So I am losing RM1,879 in one year la??!!(35% in the certificate is debit from money then) (what the f**k?) We have been cheated!! And I told Moses I wanted to cancel NOW!! And I signed the cancellation form. He said that Amanah HQ will call me back. And I also told him that when HQ call me, I don't want to have any arguments and I just want my RM1200 back – I want to see RM1200 in my bank account. And I double check my hand phone number with him, he mention me a 018, which I told Eve to change my contact detail 2 months ago. And I also told Moses that this cancellation is because of wrong information has been given by the agent (Eve). This is not my mistake... of which I am paying for now. He said that yes I will tell the HQ.
And I phoned my colleague, Ver, telling him that WE'VE BEEN CHEATED and he must cancel as well or else he will lose a lot of money in one year!! And he agreed to cancel. On 20th Nov, Ver and I went to HSBC Cameron Highlands Branch. And we explained Ms.Pei Nee that we have been cheated by Eve. And we explained our experience with Eve to her. She said a lot of customer also complained about her. This time, she said that we really are not receiving such amount and that we are going to receive less than what we paid. (THEN HOW COME SHE DIDN'T TELL US EARLIER WHEN I ASK HER ON THIS THEN, SHE EVEN SAID YOU BETTER CHECK WITH HER if she knew???) And she even check with HQ and HQ told us that I am receiving RM690 and Ver will be receiving RM110 only. I feel pity for Ver. And we asked, “Why Ver lost more?” And Ms.Pei Nee, explained to us that Ver joined with a less amount so he is not receiving more profit and I will receive more because I join with more amount and I am a month ahead of Ver. We were like looking at each other and “OMG, we have been cheated!”.
HSBC Amanah NEVER called me and they just bank in RM690 on 24th of Nov (which they mentioned on 20th Nov). I asked Ver to check his account as well. And on 25th Nov and Ver said you must be joking. I said No I did not joke to you! I am only received RM690” and he said, “I received RM420”. I was happy for him but also felt bad for my situation for I never received the correct amount! Why am I not receiving the full amount? I went to HSBC Cameron Highlands Branch on 30th of November and asked Ms. Pei Nee about the amount that we received differently. And she helped me in calling HQ and I spoke to Ms. Fazlin to explain about our sad experience with HSBC Cameron Highlands Branch.She said She needed to check and she will call me back in 2 hours. She repeated my Number 018....? Which i asked Moses to update a week ago. So I repeated my 019 number AGAIN!to Fazlin. (What's wrong with HSBC Communication?) Until 4.45pm No one call me so I call to 1800889659 and checked with Fazlin. She told me that its still in process. Next day again I called to HSBC and as per Fazlin she already reported my concern to Complaint Dept. Still waiting for their answer!. Thursday I call again and I spoke with Gopi explained my entire story to him. He said he will tell to Fazlin and they all felt sorry for me. I waited until Friday, Saturday and Sunday, and even until Monday. I called on Tuesday and spoke with Fazlin. She apologized to me about delay and she said she had emailed to Complaint Dept. Now she is going to bring up the matter to higher management due to her off is Wednesday. She will call me back on Thursday. I waited until 4.40 pm on Thursday.
BUT no one called me. I called to HSBC HQ and some other agent answered my call. She said Fazlin was engaged on other line, she tried to explained to me about my case, but I prefer to hear from Fazlin. So I do waited until Faz answered my call. (does Fazlin was hiding from my call???) And Fazlin told me that she didn't have the reply yet from the higher management. And she said she's going to call me after that day before 5.00pm (Friday 11th December). Fazlin called me. On 4.45. line was unclear and she called back soon after. Fazlin said that my request of full refund is unable to proceed due to I have canceled after cooling off period. (Don't tell me that crap because I heard this from branch, second time I went for cancellation. Find another excuse, did they even noticed that the reason I am complaining is because of that. HELLO I AM THE VICTIM AND I GOT CHEATED BY YOUR SO CALLED PERSONAL WEALTH MANAGER!!!) HSBC Cameron Highlands Branch told HQ that I am fully aware of HOW MUCH I AM GOING TO RECEIVE. (HELLO I AM AWARE OF HOW MUCH I AM GOING TO RECEIVE BECAUSE MS. PEI NEE CALLED TO HQ AND CHECK SO SECOND TIME I WENT TO BRANCH FOR CANCELLATION. IT'S NOT THAT I AM AWARE ON THE VERY FIRST DAY BEFORE I EVEN SIGNED UP FOR THE PLAN!!!AND I TOLD TO MOSES THAT I DO NOT WANT TO HAVE AN ARGUMENT. I JUST WANT MY MONEY THAT I HAVE PAID. I DO CANCEL, YES DUE TO AN ERROR FROM YOUR SIDE). I was so angry and What the bloody hell excuse was that. I told Faz (with my voice shaking) that I am holding the BLACK & WHITE which EVE scribbled for us the first time we went there for cancellation. I strongly disagreed with what HSBC CH branch told to HQ. That they are cheating instead. Faz suggested to me to see branch manager and Fax the document. I wrote a short note and attached paper that Eve scribbled on how much are we receiving. I told Faz that this is my last copy of that document and this B&W is what I am going to use for my police report and news paper publishing. And I faxed that documents. But I was unable to check weather they received it or not because when I called the office was already closed. Then I faxed twice, and I called to CH branch. I managed to spoke to Moses and as soon as he found out that it was me he asked me to hold the line for awhile. He don't want to listen to me. He said, “Can I ask HQ to call you?” This case is out of control. Out of our control ”(I AM ANGRY WITH HOW MOSES REACTED ON THE PHONE, OUT OF F****** CONTROL? YES!! BECAUSE YOU GUYS LIED TO YOUR HQ.HE JUST IGNORED AND IRRESPONSIBLE) and I interrupted his sentence and told him that “ Tell your manager! I am very upset by they way HSBC Cameron Highlands Branch answered when HSBC HQ check about my case and you guys answered. “Customer is fully aware about how much I am going to received” which I already been cheated. The branch is not responsible for their mistake. They think they can corner the consumer with what ever we sign for?.
Dear Sir,
My impression to HSBC Cameron Highland Branch is this, they hire EVE to cheat the people. Maybe achieve the target or something, then get her out? I don't know. I think you are well educated you can think by your own. The reason why I write each single word because. I have an odd experience when I lost my wallet, because I don't have single ringgit. I need to walk for 3KM by myself under the sun. Now what I paid is RM1200 and I only received RM690. My money which amounts to RM510 have been lost which I can't afford by this time (THIS MONEY CAN SAVE MANY KM OF WALK. 1530KM! 63.75 days) I walked in to HSBC bank to save money and I have trusted the brand. I have trusted the service agent so called “Personal Wealth Manager” (But I walked out with RM510 poorer) and I signed the paper trusting that person because she is representing Big Brand like HSBC. Thinking what ever she told me is on the paper as well and it is true. The other thing why I write this is because I even want to go further by newspaper publishing to alert the people from avoiding same saturation as mine. And before I should take legal action as well. I am ready to bring up this matter to HSBC International, if the problem is still unsolved.


Nway Aye Maung
374782

Friday, December 19, 2008

Thu Nge Chin

Look to This Day

Look to this day:
For it is life, the very life of life.
In its brief course
Lie all the verities and realities of your existence.
The bliss of growth,
The glory of action,
The splendour of achievement
Are but experiences of time.

For yesterday is but a dream
And tomorrow is only a vision;
And today well-lived, makes
Yesterday a dream of happiness
And every tomorrow a vision of hope.
Look well therefore to this day;
Such is the salutation to the ever-new dawn!

Stop

Stop!
Stop making the sounds without ulterance because ulterance itself needed edifier.
Stop telling me your story, which is not true.
Stop telling gossip about someone behind their back to me.
Stop argues with me even though you know that you are wrong.
Stop underestimates me, just because you have something which I don’t have. But you may not something which I have.
Stop humiliates in front of others, because you know my weakness.
Stop crossing line, Just because I am friendly.
Stop cheating me, because you think I won’t tell you off.
Stop showing off, which is not real in you to just exposures in front of others. But you can’t exposures behind them.
Stop telling me that I am good, even though I am not good at them.
Stop telling me about others people weakness and negative behavior, Just to create conversation with me. I don’t want to know. (Just tell me their strength, at lest I can learn something from them.)
Stop letting me down like I am fool. Just to prepare how to handle them, if you face same saturation with you.
Stop asking which I can’t give, reason because Just to test my love.
Stop giving me a gift, which you are dearly received from others. It’s not fair for them.

True Love

TRUE love has vanished from every heart;
what has befallen all lovers fair?
When did the bonds of friendship part?--
What has befallen the friends that were?
Ah, why are the feet of Khizr lingering?--
The waters of life are no longer clear,
the purple rose has turned pale with fear,
and what has befallen the wind of Spring?
None now sayeth: "A love was mine,
Loyal and wise, to dispel my care."
None remembers love's right divine;
what has befallen all lovers fair?
In the midst of the field, to the players' feet,
the ball of God's favor and mercy came,
but none has leapt forth to renew the game--
What has befallen the horsemen fleet?
Roses have bloomed, yet no bird rejoiced,
No vibrating throat has rung with the tale;
what can have silenced the hundred-voiced?
What has befallen the nightingale?
Heaven's music is hushed, and the planets roll
In silence; has Zohra broken her lute?
There is none to press out the vine's ripe fruit,
And what has befallen the foaming bowl?
A city where kings are but lovers crowned,
A land from the dust of which friendship springs--
Who has laid waste that enchanted ground?
What has befallen the city of kings?
Years have passed since a ruby was won
from the mine of manhood; they labor in vain,
the fleet-footed wind and the quickening rain,
and what has befallen the light of the sun?
Hafiz, the secret of God's dread task
No man knoweth, in youth or prime
Or in wisest age; of whom would'st thou ask:
What has befallen the wheels of Time?

Sara & Zahir wedding

Sara & Zahir wedding

Sara & Zahir wedding